2020-The Year of Healing

There’s nothing more refreshing then a new year. For me, Christmas can stand down because New Years Day has a certain excitement that can’t be reached. It proves to me that I made it through one hex of a year, and you know what, I’m gonna kill another.

If I’m honest, I love fresh starts.

However, I feel as if I need to wrap up 2019, and this decade, in some of my most notable moments.

  1. I became dual-enrolled, and received B’s in the two classes I did take. (I only took two because I was just trying it out). I’m proud to say I paid for a majority of each class and their requirements.
  2. I dyed my hair. This is big because I’m not really a rebellious kid-I’m kind of a stiff neck, but this was one rebellious thing I wanted to do. So I begged my mom to let me do it before I was eighteen, and she agreed. I did have it professionally done because I’m a clumsy hot mess and I didn’t feel like cleaning out the tub or trying to fix my hair if something went wrong.
  3. I was officially employed for one whole year.
  4. I started working in both retail and food services, and have in fact realized that I do not want to do either for the rest of my life.
  5. I got my license.
  6. Sponsors!!
  7. I reached 165 followers (and counting, here’s to ya’ll)!
  8. I went self-hosted.
  9. I joined a church I’m truly comfortable with.
  10. I found my writing niche.
  11. I met some great, real friends. Even if they are online, I finally found a group of friends that I feel comfortable enough not to have to filter myself.
  12. I stopped trying to live my life pleasing others, or proving them wrong.
  13. I stopped trying to be better than everybody else and just decided to be the best me that I can be.
  14. I accepted that the emotional/mental abuse I went through as a child is not something I should blame myself for; nor should I try to bottle up the emotions that come with remembering.
  15. I’ve recovered from major past trauma and events, and I’m finally ready for the next step-healing.

In wrap-maybe I didn’t do my New Years Resolutions, but I sure did pretty well. I will say, when I talk about emotional and mental abuse, I’m talking about some extended family members. Earlier this year, I had a breakdown and had to admit what I was feeling from it. It was a lot to admit, but ultimately, I’ve spent a lot of the year trying to talk with someone about it, and just be honest. You know, recover-thank God for my brother and parents; couldn’t have done it without their support. I’m moving on from the abuse (again, strictly emotional and mental, but definitely a dark point in my life).

So with the conclusion of that, here’s to Twenty-Twenty.

The year I Heal.

The year I step outside the box.


Looking for something special to treat yourself to? Try the Fabfitfun box. Fabfitfun is a subscription box that ships seasonally, giving you a bare minimum box worth of $200.I loved the Winter box-everything I received I’m using/have used, and can honestly say I don’t regret it-the blanket I got alone makes me happy-and the speaker; I was just so stoked. You can check it out here.

Even though it’s late, I will be posting a review for it; I loved the box that much-I got some incredibly aesthetic photos-a rarity for me, I don’t usually. (Seriously, I was so proud I showed my mom like it was artwork or something).


To get a discount use the code SOCOLD (even though where I live we had a cold Thanksgiving, and Christmas was seventy-stinking-degrees), and get $10 off your purchase.

Also, about the sponsors, I really appreciate the fact that nobody’s lost their mind about this-I wouldn’t do it, however, I’m trying to turn my blog into something that I can keep up in college, and even the smallest amount helps there.

Anyway, see you next year!

How to Step Outside the Christmas Box

Ah, Christmas.

As somebody in Retail, I hate it. I strongly dislike all the customers being rude, and so help me, I really dislike the fact that I’m trying to lose weight and I can’t seem to say no to a delicious chocolate brownie.

Or three and then dessert.

But we’re going to avoid that conversation, and move onto something I think is a bit more important-how to get involved in your community, and helping other people out this Holiday season.
1. Purchase gifts that have proceeds that go to important organizations/and or round up this season.

Amazon already offers 0.5% of your purchase to a Charity of you’re choosing when you make a purchase-and during the Holiday season when you’re trying to get everything, it really adds up. I would definitely suggest adding that to help.

Other companies/organization run businesses that have a certain percentage that goes into helping people are also the following:

Amazima Industries-Currently they are running a 30% off sale on any ten regular priced items, and free domestic shipping on orders over $75.

Hand in Hand– Currently, they are running a series of deals, and as of 12/11, they are offering 15% percent off your purchase, and free shipping on purchases of $55 or more.

Bombas– Their current holiday deal is 20% percent off your first order.

STATE– If you order by the 12/13, you should be able to receive any purchases by 12/23. And if by signing up with Messanger, you can save 10%.
2. Donate to Local Charities

Often times this is something you’ll see frequently this time a year, but definitely consider donating; local charities are often overlooked. I would highly encourage looking around, or doing a little research on the local charities in your area, and finding out how you can help.
3. Volunteer on Christmas/ Leading Up To

Retirement Communities-This is usually good for people of most ages; depending on maturity levels. Often times volunteer jobs will have you spending time/interacting with the guests. There might be special tasks with the holidays, so *always* (and I can’t-and won’t-stress this enough) call ahead and *ask* how you can help (don’t just call and demand).

Local Homeless Shelters- Again, call ahead, there are most likely several areas that you can help/volunteer in, it’s just understanding your own limits-but not putting so many down that they don’t have much to work with.

Hospitals- Now, I know the rules tend to change where I live one Hospital allows it, the other is a no-go, but oftentimes finding a way to go about volunteering at the Hospital, specifically around the Holiday Season, can be very helpful.




Jail/Prisons- I’m just going to start this one off by saying, find an established group or somebody who has done it before and bring them with you. Who goes in/how you do it and what you do are things I can’t tell you for certain. Just make sure you know what you’re doing and as always.


4. Find out Items that Local Charities Need This Time of Year

You know the donation thing earlier? I was talking about money. I can give you a list of things they can almost always use (knowing from personal experience what some of the most common products they run out of are), but just call and make sure they can really take the donation-and to find out ultimately what they need. While it is nice to give pretty things this time of year as gifts, don’t forget the importance of toiletries.

1. Razers (I don’t know about all places, double-check before you donate, there might be a rule against them)

2. Shampoo/Conditioner (Travel Size)

3. Baby Wipes
5. Smaller Random Habits to Pick Up…

The Random List

  1. Every ten dollars you spend on a gift, you donate ten cents…or a dollar…or TEN DOLLARS. Or something along those lines.
  2. Purchase things on sale, and then donate the remainder of the money you would have originally spent.
  3. Buying in bulk to save? Donate the items you don’t need.
  4. Schedule family time, but set it up so that you’re volunteering in the process.

I hope you found this list helpful and will go through the holiday season with a cheerful spirit!

My Life Promise

Starting off Blogmas, I thought I’d do something a bit different.

A life promise, if you will.

Because sure, I can write that I’m a Christian, claim my beliefs, but being such a broad claim. The word, the title is just thrown around, and molded to what someone wants it to be, and I believe that I myself am guilty of this.

So here’s my life promise.

As a Christian; as a daughter, a sister, a genuinely-confused life-long student.

Here’s my promise as a person.

They don’t give you instructions on how to do life, you have to wing it, learn from your mistakes, use your gut and pray for the best.

I can promise you that I will never be perfect, or make mistakes. I can promise you I won’t follow all of my promises.

But I promise to try.

I promise to never cause someone the same pain that I experienced.

I promise to find solutions to problems the way God would want.

I promise to never tear someone down the way I did when I was younger.

I promise to expect the unexpected.

I promise to be honest.

I promise to be bold, to never stand in the background.

I promise to never be the victim again.

I promise to never be the villain in someone’s story, in such a way that I can’t fix my mistakes.

I promise to watch what I say.

I promise to hold my temper.

I promise to remain humble.

I promise to uphold God’s creation and words.

I promise to keep God first.

I promise to take responsibility for my problems and my mistakes.

I promise to never pass another opportunity to save a life; to make a change.

I promise to never let another opportunity for change to slip through my hands.

I promise to give life 120% and whatever’s left in me.

I promise to serve God, and what things get hard, I promise to trust in Him.

I promise to never deny my love for God, no matter the circumstance.

I promise to never be ashamed of my relationship to God, or what I do to serve Him.

I promise to remember that even though there’s pain now, in the long run, it will all be worth it.

Above all, I promise these to God, my family, those I meet, and those that I never meet.


Welcome to Blogmas!

I make no promises.

But also, hello, and welcome to Blogmas!

I know I was gone last week, however, I was spending some well-needed quality time, and had just gotten over two very stressful points in my life. That being said, I’m here now, to say, let’s give Blogmas a try, shall we?

Now, I was trying to think of a way to start it off, but I decided, you know what, just a quick hello would be perfect-so I say hello today, and I shall see you tomorrow (no, seriously).